I talked at length today with my sister-in-law, whenever we get on the phone we tend to do that. You would think she was my real sister or something. Ironically her name is Amy also, so when she married my brother and since I was already married, she assumed my old name. So at our friend Joe’s wedding last weekend everyone saw in the wedding program my name as a matron of honor which indeed I was not, but she was. And since a lot of my old friends and family were there they looked for me. Funny thing is half of them, well at least the friends part of them, didn’t know I was even pregnant. So when everyone sought out “Amy Cullum” and found her not me of course they inquired about me only to be told she couldnt make it because of the baby in turn, which baby, and she proudly told them I am due in August. HA!
Most of these people I am talking about used to go to our old church and I didnt exactly leave them on good terms when I left and have tried at great lengths to avoid contacting many of them because all they do is gossip and backbite, thus my fear of getting into relationships at church, but that is changing with our new friends at church. But point is, I found Amy’s story, about how they all found out about Kiddo, truly enjoyable. I didnt even think about that aspect of missing the wedding til she mentioned it, and I am sure it would have been great fun had I been there to see the shock on everyone’s face.
See back in those days, when I was friends with these people I had two really close girlfriends, and we were like the cliche of the century. And everyone always joked about how I would be the first to have a baby then April then of course Natalie last, since she was the least likely to settle down. So ironically, Natalie marries a few short months before Dean and I and ends up pregnant shortly thereafter. And a few weeks ago I found out April has a baby already too. And even I thought I would be the first to bear child, but turns out they were much more fertile than I that or just tried harder, or as I perceive it, more often. So I delighted in all of this news today. And once again am so grateful I have such a loving husband and that we have been together for so many years before having a baby. There are so many people who either dont have any time with their father’s child to relish as just them or have just the few months that they are pregnant to do so. And I know that Dean and I will be so much more able to deal with the changes in our relationship brought by this little addition to our family because we have had so much time to get to know each other and to grow as a couple and this is just the next step in our relationship. I just thank God how blessed I am to have the family and friends I have now and to be where I am today.
So I dont know really where all that came from, I am still giggling inside as I think about what great fun they must be having talking about me and the baby and of course Dean, see many of the people there thought my attraction to Dean was just all in good fun and that of course he was just my back up plan, for when I didnt marry the man that everyone thought I would. But once again the joke is on them, I loved Dean for years and well just used my other relationships to fill in the time til Dean wised up enough to notice. And luckily for us it didnt take him too long to realize……..or else I think I’d be writing a completely different blog right now…….so as another year goes by in our relationship and more milestones are passed in our lives I cant help but laugh at those who thought and probably still do think that we’d never make it. Funny thing is, I think that with every day and every challenge Dean and I just get closer and closer and happier and happier, and I know as we look upon our new baby together we will grow in ways never thought imaginable and at that moment there will be no greater amount of joy in our life…….
