it’s better to have had love and lost love than to have never loved at all…or something like that.
Last week a new couple(and their kids) joined our life group study.  they’d been in the area for training for a little while and throughout the night we got to know them better.  They are leaving tomorrow, to head to their home then to move again.  Last week we were amazed at home much Dean and tom had in common. It was amazing. They have 4 kids, one more than our 3 but pretty close right!? Dean was bummed that we’d not get the chance to get to know them more, so on the way home we said we’d have to have them over before they left.  So tonight they came over for dinner and to hang out.
Since there werent as many folks as last week we got to know them some more. it’s odd how much we do have in common.  They even “argue” with each other like Dean and I do. it’s hard to explain but if you knew us you’d understand.  I thought Dean was unique, well I know he is, but Tom is so much like him, personality wise it’s strange.  I thought it was just “deaness” but maybe now I’m learning it’s just a personality type, one I’ve never seen in anyone else til now.  It’s pretty cool.
we are sad they have to go and are hoping they make their way back this way soon!!
Something I’ve been working on lately is to try to be a Mary not a Martha. I am somewhat ocd about a clean house, so ok, I am very ocd about it.  But since hosting game nights I’m getting better at letting dishes sit and hanging out.  Tonight I had a great chance to teach myself to leave the dishes set and to engage in conversation with my guests.  But what really got me to overcome it was the fact that I knew the dishes would be here tomorrow but Angy would not.  It was like a first date, you want to get to know as much as you can about the person so you try your best to talk as much as possible.  ok, we didnt get too indepth since I spent a while teaching her WordPress, but it was still better than doing the darn dishes while she hung out w/ the guys!
I realized after they left as I put those few dishes in the dishwasher that those silly dishes had been eating away at me the whole night, but the reward I got from leaving them there and learning about a new friend was better than the feeling I get at the end of the day looking at my spotless kitchen and house.
So while Angy and Tom will be on their way home tomorrow, I’m glad we got the chance to spend time with them before they went, I hope we both gained from the evening together!!
