Caleb has always been very independent.  At first I assumed it was a personality thing; now I’m wondering if it reflects on our parenting style(whatever that is!).   Bo does need help when he climbs into/on something and cant save himself from falling or being stuck but aside from that he’s quite content to play by himself and sometimes if you try to play with him he just ignores you. Today he’s bringing me toys from the play kitchen and engaging me some but mostly he likes to just explore by himself. We let Caleb do that as a child too as long as he did things that were safe.
The best part these last few days is I’ve noticed that Boaz is understanding so much of what we are saying.  If you ask him if he wants to eat he will go to the kitchen or if you dont ask and he’s hungry he’ll try to climb(succesfully even) into his highchair.  I noticed last week if you tell him it’s bath time he’ll go wait by the bathroom door for you to let him(we keep the door closed because he likes to flush the toilet).   this week I discovered if you ask if he needs a diaper, esp when he’s stinking up the joint, he’ll walk to his room and wait for you to get him.   If only he could climb onto the changing table, no that would be dangerous!  On Monday a friend was here and mentioned him needing to get his shoes on and he went to his room and pointed up to the dresser top where I keep his shoes. he’s one smart kid. he may not say much, he’s a man of few words although he’s babbling a lot more lately, but he definitely is understanding a lot of his world.  I’m trying to work on his vocabulary and talking to him like crazy all day and yesterday during my questioning of “where’s Bo’s (hair,mouth, eyes – none of which he acknowledges) when I said feet he started pulling at his feet/shoes.  it’s so cool to be here to see him learning and growing. I realized yesterday I wasnt around for this time with Caleb, I was working full time and feeling so guilty about it.  Now I feel a little guilty Caleb is at school and others are seeing him grow so much but at the end of the day at school he comes home while Bo naps and we work on writing/worksheets/homework or art work and I get to see how much he’s learning at school.  It’s neat to see both of my boys getting so big and it’s nice to know I’ll get the chance to see one more boy go through these things, even if there are phases that baffle me and leave me wishing I wasnt their mom at that moment(horrible thought I know – but i’ll be honest) it’s so cool to be a mom and see the good things, to know you do have an impact on your kids.   Bo and Caleb are a lot alike but as very different.   I cant wait to see how baby boy #3 adds to the mix and how different he is.
