Yesterday when I dropped Caleb off at the daycare providers she wasnt there. Her husband said she had to go out and would be back shortly so I left him w/ him, although I had second and third thoughts about doing so. Today around 9 am she calls and says that she wont be there today until 1 or so because she has somewhere to be but that her husband will be home to watch Caleb until she is there. I told her ok but I got off the phone and got so upset. I dont like talking to the daycare provider because she just doesnt seem to care what we think about how Caleb is cared for. So I didnt feel comfortable telling her that no that it’s not alright for her to call an hour before I have to be there and say she wont be there!
I was going to take him but I cant do it. I dont particularly like our daycare provider but I dont have much choice until we find someone else. This made it so much harder, knowing that she may have been leaving him before but we were dropping him off earlier so I think it’s just now becoming an issue because we are dropping him off at the times when she isn’t going to be there so we know that she’s not there.
Unfortunately Dean and I dont agree on what to do. He says he would just take Caleb and not worry about it. If my son didnt already come home w/ scratches and bruises of unknown and unexplainable origin and w/out his wipes and diapers and bottles and w/ unopened jars of baby food that he is supposed to be eating maybe I wouldnt care. But this is the last straw for me. I may lose my job because I called out for the third time but I dont know what other choice I have. Sure I could drop my son off w/ a complete stranger, but then I’d go to work and be unable to concentrate and be upset which will make my work suffer anyway so why even try. I dont know if I’m being too overprotective or just needing an excuse to get out of work, but I think I am being rational about my fear of leaving him there. I mean of course no one really wants to go to work, but I realize I need to. But I guess I just think my family should come before work. I am being silly?
This should email you.
I dont’ think you are being silly. If the daycare provider (who I’m guessing is not licensed and is, therefore, doing this illegally?) agrees to be there, it is just a like a job and sh eneeds to be there. You shouldn’t have to leave your sweet Caleb with someone who isn’t officially responsible for him. Does she need the money? Because she shouldn’t be getting paid for time that she is not providing care.
I hope it all works out.