I know I have a sad life, just sitting around all day vegging in front of the tv or computer when I am not taking care of the baby, which isnt that often. But today on some talk show the topic was postpartum depression and women who were afraid they were going to hurt their babies. I love my son so much that no matter how fussy he gets I cant imagine ever hurting him. After taking care of him 24/7 I’ve gotten used to what each of his different cries mean and I can usually comfort him, he’s a very happy baby for the most part. But there have been times when I felt like I just couldnt do it,but I also recognized that it was mostly because I was extremely tired or didnt feel well so I would put Caleb down for a minute, leave the room to recoop and then return to hold him and try to comfort him. I think everyone has a limit of what they can and cant handle and that is different for everyone. But I also think we all can tell when we are being pushed to our limit and I guess some people just dont know how to cope with dealing problems that arise daily.
I know that there are a lot of women who get severe post partum depression, or that is what the drs diagnose it as, but I cant help but think that it is something deeper than that. I have a problem when people diagnose problems based on life situations. I cant believe drs use pms or whatever the name of that new illness is associated with it that makes women crazy or severely moody as an excuse. I realize we all have bad days and that depression is a part of life, I know I get depressed more than I probably should but I hate when people use things like that as an excuse. Some people just arent meant to be mothers , and I dont think some women try hard enough to try. Not that I dont believe that women suffer from ppd, I do, but when you start talking about killing yourself I think drs should call it what it is and not blame it the fact you just had a baby. I just think that they should not try so hard to label it or diagnose new “diseases” and should just treat it for what it is, it’s a mental illness, no different than any other. Treat it as such. I really dont believe having just the baby blues would cause you to run out and kill all of your kids, something else has to be going on there. I know a lot of people wont agree with me, but I think it takes some severe problems to cause that kind of thinking, not just being depressed. I really hate how someone needs to find an excuse for something they did and how it always end up being some mental illness, come on, even if you say you were insane you still did the crime and heck if you are crazy enough to do something so severe you shouldnt be let off because you got us to realize how crazy you are. I am just sick of how there are all sorts of excuses lawyers use now and they get drs to back it up with some disease or disorder that they probably concocted just to get a nice paycheck.
Sorry if I offended anyone, I’m not sure why I even went on that tangent, I guess I am just going stir crazy sitting around all day watching all the trash on tv….
