When Caleb was an infant I cant remember what our days were like. I barely remember much from the first year of Caleb’s life as far as what our routine was if any. I didnt go to work until he was about a year old and then only off and on til we finally decided I’d stay home full time with him and at that point he was 2 I think. Since his infant days I’ve strived to do a lot with him, keep him busy doing something. Over the last few years my health has made that hard at times and while he came to expect the busy-ness of our days I’ve had to slow it down and I feel like he’s suffering becuase of it. We still get out of the house more than some sahm’s I know but I worry about how much tv he’s watching but with the baby now it’s harder to keep him away from it. I mean I know he’s doing ok, he has school two mornings a week, days when there’s not school we will go to the park(weather permitting) or to a mall w/ a playground of just out shopping. Today we went swimming, and that’s something I think we’ll start to do every Wednesday before lunch. Our weekends tend to be very full lately.
Amongst all of this I wonder how Boaz is keeping up and if I’ll be able to keep up this pace when he gets more mobile. I managed to babysit and take care of 3 kids before Bo so I’m sure I’ll be able to handle it, but I am afraid I dont do as much with Boaz as I should. Most of this is becuase i just got done reading on the Nov. 2004 playgroup for babies who were born then and the moms were all talking how they never put the baby down, how they dont get a shower until hubby is home at night blah blah blah. I get a shower almost every day, and most days before noon. I figure I would let caleb alone before boaz to shower so nothings changed with him, so I shower either when Boaz naps or I put him in his bouncy set in the bathroom with me and I play peek-a-boo with the shower curtain throughout my shower, which he laughs at and he is fine in the chair while I dress and do my hair too. I guess things are different when you have two kids, but I feel like if I hold Boaz all day then I”ll never do anything with or for Caleb and that’s not fair. Luckily I guess for me I’ve got an independent baby who sometimes prefers to just lay on the floor and look around at everything as opposed to my holding him. If he’s been fed, changed and is still fussy as I hold him and isnt tired then when I lay him down he laughs and plays by himself. It’s odd because caleb liked to be held, Boaz is much more of a loner. He will socialize with you as he lays on the floor or the seat next to you, and often he’ll laugh and talk more like this then if you hold him and try to interact with him. Maybe he’s like his momma and the phsyical closeness of nursing is all he needs and more than that is too much contact. I feel sometimes like that’s why I tend to hold him less, I feel like after a nursing session I need a break from holding him, not for him but for my preference. I know he is my baby and I love to be close to him, but I’m not used to nursing and for me it’s a lot more closeness than I’m used to in my day so I’m glad boaz doesnt require as much holding as other babies, but I worry sometimes if I dont hold him enough. I guess the best way to know is that he’s a happy baby. he loves to be held yet he loves to be left alone. He is a content child, and I’m grateful for that. I love both my boys and I’m finding that I can give both of them one on one time, Caleb gets my mornings while Boaz naps and Boaz gets my afternoons while Caleb naps(and of course all the times when I nurse him). Now if I could find a way to get one on one time w/ my hubby then I’d be a happy woman!
